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Reasons why I don’t visit your blog

Reasons why I don’t visit your blogReasons why I don’t visit your blog

As a blogger I (usually) enjoy reading and commenting on other people’s blogs. My favorite blogs have a few things in common: they introduce me to new destinations, they are geared to the independent traveller, they’re honest in presenting a true picture of a destination or travel in general. I’m drawn to bloggers who travel full-time or who are expats that have made somewhere else their home (ie. people similar to us). Reading and commenting on other people’s blogs has helped us plan our own travels and has introduced us to other bloggers, some of whom we’ve met and now keep in touch with. In short, interacting with other people’s blogs is part of being in the “blogger community”. It’s good being part of a community.

But there are blogs that I either won’t visit (I may once, before realizing that your blog’s not for me) or that, with time, I’ll no longer visit.

This post is about the reasons I probably don’t visit your blog.

 


 

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A. Instant turnoffs
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The title basically says it all. It’s usually about how you present yourself or your blog. Here are the ones that come to mind:
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1. Yoga poses all over the place.

Every 2nd photo of you is done posing in front of a monument like you’re Mahatma Gandhi or something (most of these bloggers are younger females who probably don’t even know who Gandhi was). Oh yeah, I get it, you suddenly feel so at one with nature standing there on a religious monument or at a memorial to dead people.

Give me a break. You just look like a frigin idiot.

 

can't stand yoga pose bloggers. Reasons why I don’t visit your blog

 


2. Posing in your bikini

Yes, you have a great body but there are more photos of you in a bikini than of the destination. Are you trying to get avid readers interested in what you have to say or just a bunch of guys pulling their monkey to your photos? I honestly lose a bit of respect for those of you who need to flash your body parts in order to get readers to your travel blog.

I’m not going to be one of your monkey pullers.

 

why sexy travel bloggers bug me. Reasons why I don’t visit your blog

 

.Note: I find the above 2 categories often overlap and they really bother me more than anything. 

 

 

3. Vegan/Eco/morally-superior-type bloggers

We’ve met or dealt with a bunch of these categories of bloggers. We can’t seem to get along.

A few years ago we visited the Hutsadin Elephant Foundation and I was touched by the efforts the volunteers were making in saving abused or injured elephants. I wrote about it, then I reached out to a few of the larger Eco bloggers about sharing the post or just simply spreading the word about this foundation. What I received was either silence or these bloggers calling Hutsadin “horrific” and painting me as the guy promoting animal cruelty. I got pretty pissed off about it.

We met a few travel bloggers through our last few years of travel who promoted themselves as “Vegan”, “Eco” and “yoga”. Nice people. But after a few meetings we came to the realization that they ate meat and didn’t know anything about yoga. These were just labels that put them in a travel blogger niche. That also left us feeling a little jaded towards this category of bloggers. (note: Spanky has done yoga for over 20 years and we’ve even gone to yoga retreats. But it doesn’t define us anymore than drinking beer does).

So I’m sorry if I don’t have any interest, I’ve just learned that we don’t see the world the same way. Oh, and by the way, when we visit any kind of animal foundation we always pay for it and never ask for a freebie even if we end up promoting the place.

 

elephants. Reasons why I don’t visit your blog
Big difference but not everyone sees it that way.

 

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4. Family Blogs

Family Travel Blogs are very popular and it’s understandable because many people have kids and are looking for kid-friendly destinations and advice. There’s absolutely nothing personal here – but I have a grown son now and family travel is not something I follow anymore.

Related: Our one and only “Family road trip” 10 years ago. It was a bit of a disaster.

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B. Content

 

Getting past that initial first impression of a blog, there’s content.  Here are a few things that bother me (in varying degrees).

 

1. You don’t have an opinion

What do you think of a place? If you’ve been somewhere I haven’t (or even somewhere I’ve been) I’d like your opinion on it. Maybe we won’t agree but that’s not important, in the end travel is about your experience and I want to know what you liked/didn’t like about a place. I can’t stand reading a post that’s wishy-washy all the while trying to figure out “did they like it there...??”. Especially if it’s a place I’ve never been but that I might be considering. An opinion (if it’s credible and not based on 3 hrs spent somewhere for lunch) helps me as a reader. When there’s consistently no opinion of any kind a blog gets boring.

 

2. You write about places you haven’t been

This seems to be a growing trend: writing about places you haven’t been and including all these great photos pinched from Flickr.
If you haven’t travelled you shouldn’t have a travel blog. That’s like me writing about menstrual cramps.

 

3. Your blog reads like a diary…I can’t get anything out of it.

It’s always a balancing act. You don’t want to be dry and boring when writing, you also don’t want to add too much personal stuff that readers won’t want to read  “…so then we checked in, freshened up, put on some clean clothes (I put on my polka dot dress, you know the one with the white sash along the waist), and went out for a walk…”.

Ok, I’m already bored.

 

 

4. Full of ads and/or sponsored posts

People want to monetize their blogs but if you have too many ads popping up or flashing it’s a major turnoff (update: sorry, we now have ads on the page. I should boycott myself). Sponsored posts often suck even more because it turns good bloggers into mushy ass kissers (I was kind of guilty of that in Japan – but that was an exception because things were really expensive. We very rarely do sponsored posts or exchange reviews for free stays).

 

Hello Kitty in Tokyo. Reasons why I don’t visit your blog
Above: oh yeah, totally selling out.

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C. Comments
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Hey, I like your blog! But here are a few things, all related to comments, that can result in me not bothering to come back to your site.
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1. Difficult leaving a comment

I honestly enjoy reading other people’s blogs and if I like a post I’ll comment. So why is your site so difficult to comment on? If you have Disqus or have to comment using Facebook I’m not going to bother.
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2. You don’t respond to comments

This is the most basic rule of blogging (I think) and I can’t believe there are so many bloggers who just don’t respond to any comments or questions posted on their blog. And it’s not just established bloggers (who are usually busier), I’ve seen it with new bloggers as well. In my books, a comment is like someone calling you or sending you an email. If you’re a blogger you should try to respond in a timely basis. If you can’t bother responding to a comment or question on your own blog why would I ever comment again?

 

3. You can’t bother ever reciprocating

Part of being in the “blogger community” is to reciprocate. It doesn’t have to be constant or tit for tat, but you occasionally have to give something back. If you don’t that’s your prerogative, but if I see that it’s a one-sided relationship I most likely won’t come back to your blog (unless it’s super duper awesome) and I definitely won’t comment again. Again, I’m incredulous that many bloggers just can’t be bothered.
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D. Other odds and ends

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A few other blogger peeves while I’m at it.

– I wish bloggers would have a decent “About Us” page so the reader can get an idea of what you’re about. Don’t write about your love of unicorns and the sea, nobody cares about that. Tell us where you’re from, your background, how you travel. I see too many About Us pages that basically say nothing (sometimes not even including the name of the writer). It only helps people who want to engage with you 😉 .

– I’ve had a few blogs write me lately with “hey, we’ve just named you as one of the Top 50 Travel Bloggers. It would be great if you could promote our post and put our special badge on your blog”. When you ignore them they become more insistent “I just checked and we never got any response from you. I’m sending you our badge again so that you can promote this special badge on your blog, social media network on Facebook, Twitter, among friends and family members”. So basically you’ve put me on some sort of list (bet you never even read one post on this blog) and now I’m supposed to stick your stinking badge on my front page. That burns me. F*ck off.

– Bloggers (one in particular that I won’t name) doing the “Sexiest Male/Sexiest Female Travellers” posts which 1) pushes the whole sex sells agenda, 2) amounts to a whole lot of ass kissing in my opinion. It hit a new low this year when you were asked to pay to see the post. I unsubscribed. Pathetic.

– We’ve also had a lot of new bloggers who’ve asked us as more established bloggers if we would mind linking one of their posts in one of ours. I understand it and don’t get annoyed, but I won’t do it because nobody should give freebies. We’ve put in a lot of work on our blog to get where we are and if you persevere you’ll get there as well. So just do the work. No freebies. BUT – I’ll often give new bloggers an opportunity to contribute a guide to the blog and in that will give them as many links as they desire.

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Ok, that’s all I can think of right now.

 

What are your biggest issues/peeves about Travel Blogs?

 

 

Related: Why I’ve had it with Instagrammers (and some travel bloggers)

Related: Blah, blah, blah…why I’m sick of the “woke” and the hypocrites

Related: Is it Racist to ask someone where they’re (really) from?

 

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Comments

  1. Kelly

    March 23, 2023 at 11:59 pm

    Funny how old this blog post is and yet your issues (totally valid) still stand today!
    P.S. As a former carnivore turned vegan, we totally understand your comments about vegans. Unfortunately, the posers and the judge-y vegans give all vegans a bad name. We fall into the camp that we’re doing it for our own reasons and we hope you enjoy your burger or steak- we sure did at one time. Let’s just all get a long.

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      March 24, 2023 at 1:43 pm

      Thank you Kelly. Really, this is a topic that stands the test of time – a lot of reasons why some blogs don’t do well and you can generally say people don’t like self-importance (ie posers as you say), dishonesty or sitting on the fence. People want an opinion and want to be entertained. All that doesn’t change.

      Reply
  2. Jacinda Ingels

    January 16, 2023 at 3:47 pm

    Just gone reading your article and I have to comment, it was an undivided hoot. Your writing style is so engaging, I felt like I was on a wild goose chase with you. The picture you included were also a hoot, and I’m persuadedconvinced that you must have a photographic memory because they were so vivid. Keep it up, it’s a real trip!”

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      January 17, 2023 at 6:43 pm

      Thank you very much Jacinda! 🙂

      Reply
  3. Ric

    April 12, 2021 at 11:13 pm

    Re-read for a second time, and still agree with most of your pet peeves. One that irritates me quite a bit like you, are bloggers who blog about places they have not been. AKA, SEO/click bait.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      April 13, 2021 at 8:07 am

      And it’s a growing trend Ric! I’ve actually been meaning to do a follow up post to this one because I have a bunch of new pet peeves on my mind 🙂

      Reply
  4. Askla

    June 17, 2020 at 6:39 pm

    Good post on a subject that is rarely written about.
    I really hate all these posts screaming “ultimate guide to…..” , ” you need to
    go to….”, ” your/the best guide to…”, “the xx best yy in….” and all these “must” – “must see”, “must have”, “must do” and so on. They can never say what I need or must! I have been travelling quite a lot from 1995 and onwards, mostly alone and independently, so I believe I know what I need.
    Another thing I hate is all these photos of the back of the blogger, sitting here, standing there with the arms in the air…. I am more interested in the view itself than the back of the girl or lady (not many male bloggers post such photos in fact).

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      June 17, 2020 at 6:51 pm

      Ha! Yes, totally agree about arms up in the air. Big pet peeve and it’ll make it on Part 2 when I do an update. Actually sick of all these Instagram females who monopolize places with their endless photos.

      I’ve been guilty myself of using the term “Ultimate guide” once or twice. It’s just about SEO. But agree and have taken note 🙂

      Reply
  5. Adele

    September 12, 2019 at 12:00 pm

    This did make me laugh, especially the yoga pose one!! Totally agree! And throw in mindfulness in there too! I do not need to know how you found your inner spirit while swimming naked in the dead sea!
    I am just starting out in travel blogging and I certainly won’t be doing any yoga poses, there may be one or two subtle bikini shots, mostly because I love the beach but it won’t be gratuitous body displays on very page!
    I will definitely be having an opinion on places, airlines, hotels, love me or hate me!
    My niche will as far removed from backpacking and budget travel as you get so no tips on how to travel for six months with just a supermarket carrier bag!

    Reply
  6. tom

    August 2, 2019 at 1:17 am

    Youtube bloggers have taken over. Vloggers I think you call them. Most are awful.

    Annoying things

    1 bad music that swamps everything
    2 people who give 15 min intros talking about nothing much then show 5 mins of a town
    3 people who stand in front of the camera the whole time. Move out of the way and show the town not your ugly head.

    So many bad ones

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    • Edith

      March 28, 2021 at 7:13 pm

      Lol Or the ones who tell you to wait to the end of the video to get this important information while most of the first five minutes is that “just wait” message and intermittent ads that pop up every minute. Or, the click bait titles like “I lost my job living off grid” and it ten minutes of the guy building a chicken coop. On Instagram it’s fake photos and videos. There seems to be no end to the nonsense.

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      • Frank (bbqboy)

        March 29, 2021 at 1:51 pm

        Argg, don’t get me started Edith 🙂 Actually I think I’ll do a follow up post to this one, have a lot of things to add

        Reply
  7. Coralie

    May 19, 2019 at 12:26 pm

    Hi Frank.
    I loved this post as it was such a refreshing change from so much of the drivel I’ve waded through recently. My pet peeves are almost all in there. I find it very tiresome to be lured in by a headline that bears no resemblance to the content in the post (no, it doesn’t make me want to read the post) and by blogs that claim to be travel blogs that also claim to cover several other total different subject eg travel + technology + fitness. The UX is crap – read the post then get “you may also like” suggestions which bear no resemblance to the original post. eg read an article about a cruise down the Li River in China and the “you may also like” suggestions come up as “The Art Of Choosing Perfect Hair Bang (sic) For Your Face Shape – Celebrity Inspired” and “The Hidden Mystery Behind ‘The Deep Web’ and ‘The Dark Web’ And How To Access It Safely”. Finally, when the facts, spelling and grammar are just plain wrong, I lose all faith in the blogger….
    PS Absolutely no danger of me posing in a bikini any time soon. The world is safe.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 19, 2019 at 2:46 pm

      Ha! Thanks Coralie.
      I tend to follow pretty much the same circle of bloggers and there’s no much of a crossover of non-niche stuff. But I understand – even browsing through CNN news you see these dubious suggestions that are obviously sponsored.

      Reply
  8. Steve

    February 15, 2019 at 7:11 am

    Hi,

    I’m Steve. I’m interested in advertising on your site.

    I wanted to ask do you publish sponsored posts on your website? And, if you do, how much do you charge for such service?

    Hope to hear from you soon!

    Regards,
    Steve

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      February 16, 2019 at 11:54 am

      Hi Steve. I’ll write you directly.

      Reply
  9. Victoria@TheBritishBerliner

    October 6, 2018 at 9:40 pm

    Haw! Haw!
    I’ve just started following you, and found this article to be utterly hilarious!

    I wrote a post about visiting an elephant camp in Thailand a few years and people started sending me spiteful private Emails. One fellow on Twitter even sent me photographs of dead dogs! I wasn’t frightened just perplexed as to how my post could warrant such horror. Even people who were supposed to be blogger “friends” wanted to crucify me, but I nipped that in the bud pretty quickly, as I’m quite stubborn and also a strong believer of making your own choices as to what you should or shouldn’t do!

    Personally, what I can’t stand, are vlogs!
    And every blogger that I have previously followed that has switched to vlogging has been swiftly unfollowed, as I just can’t stand them. Oh, and posts on photograph of the day / week/ season, etc. Awful!

    I can’t say that I’m perfect though but hold my hands up to say that I write the way that I talk, with bits of British dry humour sprinkled about!
    I also have a subscription pop-up as well as a “normal one,” but lasts all of 5 seconds so isn’t a detriment to anyone.
    I think!

    p.s. ‘Hopefully, my “About Me” page says it all!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      October 8, 2018 at 5:01 pm

      Thanks Victoria. I commented on your blog about that comment.

      I just can’t get into vlogs, too much wasted time. But what’s the issue with photos of the day/week? I used to do photos of the week for a little while but got bored with it. Maybe readers did too 🙂

      Thanks for the feedback!

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  10. Lane

    August 10, 2018 at 9:30 pm

    Thanks for this provocative post, which I just found. I’ve been blogging about travel for almost 10 years, and still struggle with B1 and B3. I started out writing my blog to share my travel adventures with friends and family while I’m on the go, and that’s still an important part of why I blog. So I know some of my content comes across and dry and lacking in opinions and personal insights. I’m putting in some effort to make my posts more engaging for both the original audience and the new readers who are looking for advice and insights that will help them plan their future travels. I appreciate this post — it’s given me a lot to think about.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      August 11, 2018 at 4:44 pm

      Thanks Lane. People have different styles and I would never suggest to force a style. It should be what comes easily to you. But what I really believe in is an opinion – no matter what your style, you should always be honest and open about your thoughts on a place. Otherwise you’re not really helping out your readers.

      And for those that complain that you’re “biased” or “opinionated” or whatever – well, it’s your blog and these are your travel experiences. I think that’s why people go to blogs. They want an opinion to trust.

      I see that you’re going to Prague and Krakow this summer. If you need any advice don’t be shy. We’ve got lots on Prague on the blog (we’ve been 6 times now for a combined 4 months there) and we just spent a month in Krakow.
      We are right now in Lviv (Ukraine) which I really recommend for a future trip. Have enjoyed it much more than Krakow.

      Reply
  11. Lindsy Williams

    July 27, 2018 at 10:35 am

    Ha-ha! So different to the load of blogging tips and “make-it-big-time” blogging courses people are trying to sell out there that I’ve come across since starting out. This is practical and good to know for anyone who wants their readers to enjoy their work. You’ve giving me lots to think about. Thanks for this. I shall get to work.

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      July 27, 2018 at 7:12 pm

      Thank you Lindsy 🙂

      Reply
  12. Richie Treadway

    June 30, 2018 at 6:28 pm

    My blog isn’t about travel but i feel like this post still applies. I’m taking it as a list of what I should be careful not to do as a newer blogger.

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  13. Linda

    May 22, 2018 at 7:02 pm

    Frank, I just had to open this blog post. So many of your points are right on. I hate when pop ups (or social media links) cover the content and even worse if they are virtually impossible to get rid of. I understand the need to monetize the blog, but ads sprinkled inline with content make it impossible to read and figure out what is blog content and what is ads. Lists that clearly have no substance are another one that turns me off. I like to read a blog that provides me with new information and is entertaining. I don’t need Wikipedia repeated for paragraphs and paragraphs. I want to know what someone liked and didn’t like. Good for you on calling out the bad behaviour.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 23, 2018 at 3:54 am

      Thanks Linda.
      I’ll have to do a post on Instagram one day! I joined it last week to see what it’s all about. Talk about vapid content by young beautiful people who have no damn idea. Maybe we’re just getting old….

      Reply
  14. Mia

    April 6, 2018 at 10:25 pm

    I do have read some packing advice postings, but no revelations so far. I haven’t seen that many yoga pose postings (yet), but quite often I wonder why there is a person in the picture in the first place, grinning at the camera, completely spoiling the view.

    My other pet peeves are expressions and phrases like:
    – Posts about London with title “London Calling”. I wouldn’t mind a post about Irkutsk titled London Calling, though.
    – “xxx you cannot miss”. Oh yes I can. Watch me. Watch me missing your predictable xxx’s.
    – “Entrance to this Museum is free” Yeah, except to special exhibitions, comprising 90% of the supply
    – “Complete guide” as in “completely copied from an airline magazine guide”, excluding everything non-mainstream
    – “Is it safe to travel in [insert a regular non-crisis-whatsoever area]?”, posted by FearlessAdventuress.
    – “Helsinki is a tad boring” NO IT’S NOT YOU STUPID DUMHEAD WITH A LOGIC CURVED LIKE AN AALTO VASE!!!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      April 7, 2018 at 11:53 am

      – Packing lists. Urgg. It seems as mandatory to bloggers as visiting Elephant Nature park when in Chiang Mai. Boring and predictable and I don’t really want to know what people are packing. I figure if you need help packing maybe you shouldn’t be travelling at all.
      – Yup, don’t need to be seeing people’s faces every 2nd photo.
      – Cliche titles, yup, boring.
      – Entrance to the Museum is free, especially the gift shop. Yup, I know what you mean.
      – Had never heard of FearlessAdventuress. But looked it up and the site no longer up. You can drink to that tonight 🙂

      Actually, I heard Helsinki was more than a tad boring. Ha, just kidding. Never been but would like to see Finland one day.

      Thanks for taking the time to comment Mia.

      Reply
  15. Tom

    February 3, 2018 at 7:18 am

    Bikini is fine if hot.

    Reply
  16. Sheri

    February 2, 2018 at 7:56 pm

    This was great. I just found your blog and this is the first post I read. I have a new travel blog and I can already see the truth in some of these points. My favorite is about posing in your bikini. So irritating! Thanks for the laugh!

    Reply
  17. worldmeetsant

    February 2, 2018 at 2:55 am

    Thank you for being refreshing. I know you may get this a lot but I like your humor and outlook. It is truthful and has a unique voice. I am not blowing smoke up your butt I just was hooked by your posts about El Chepe especially how some tours worked for you and some didn’t e.g. shaped rocks. I hope ti read more and if you are ever in Vancouver please shoot me an email – I would love to thank you in person over a beer, coffee, or food in general. It is just nice to find a blogger how’s for lack of a better term, legit!

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      February 2, 2018 at 11:50 pm

      Thank you for your very nice comment Antoniette! Appreciate it.
      El Chepe was one of my most rewarding solo trips, really recommend it (minus the boring funny-shaped rocks). Speaking a bit of Spanish will help though.
      Ah, you live in one of the world’s most beautiful cities! I lived there for a very short while and actually went to school at Shawnigan Lake on Vancouver Island. Would love to go back to Vancouver one day on one of our usual extended stays but Vancouver has gotten so expensive! But if we ever do pass through I’ll keep you offer in mind, always nice meeting people.
      Thanks again!

      Reply
  18. Jonthan Henry

    November 29, 2017 at 6:47 am

    Loved your post! Cool Photos!!
    This is first time I am visiting your website and I find this post very very useful thanks for giving such a great information..
    Keep up the good work…I will love to visit your site again and again….

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      November 29, 2017 at 7:31 pm

      Thank you for the nice comment! 🙂

      Reply
  19. Abby Roman

    November 2, 2017 at 12:33 am

    This is so interesting! You are so on point. I find this one funny – Full of ads and/or sponsored posts because it’s true. I sometimes read other blogs and it’s really a turn off that ads are all over the place. I try to be very careful not to click the them because I’ll be routed to another page! Haha

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      November 2, 2017 at 9:12 am

      Yes, sure is distracting when they’re flashing all over like a Las Vegas billboard. Hate that.

      Reply
  20. smith

    October 14, 2017 at 12:13 pm

    I like scholars who come to the heart of the matter. Spare the waffle! I discover a ton are horrendous wafflers who discuss trifling stuff. Your blog is great purpose you concentrate on the great and the terrible. In spite of the fact that I wouldn’t fret the monkey photographs ?

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      October 14, 2017 at 9:58 pm

      Ha! Thanks for the comment and kind words 🙂

      Reply
  21. Tom

    September 1, 2017 at 11:00 pm

    I like writers who get to the point. Save the waffle! I find a lot are terrible wafflers who talk about trivial stuff. Your blog is good cause you focus on the good and the bad. Although I don’t mind the monkey photos 🙂

    Reply
    • Frank (bbqboy)

      September 2, 2017 at 4:33 pm

      Thanks Tom, appreciate it! You can’t make everyone happy and too many bloggers try to do just that.
      I appreciate a good monkey pulling photo as much as the next guy, just not from bloggers who bank on that just because they have nothing else going for them. That’s like the slutty co-worker who uses her looks to get ahead…

      Reply
  22. Laia

    August 5, 2017 at 11:13 am

    Hi Frank!
    Oh, A few days ago I found your post in twitter and I immediately realized I’m guilty. I do answer comments in my blog but lately I didn’t do it in time. So thanks, thanks for reminding me how important is to answer to the people who spent their time to read my blog and write a comment.
    And I agree about the other points, I also like blogs that are personal but not a diary, personal in the sense that it’s clear they’ve been there, share experiences and opinions and help me discover new destinations and how to travel there independently.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      August 5, 2017 at 3:13 pm

      Thank you for your comment Laia 🙂
      I always appreciate your blog, you correspond exactly to what I enjoy from a website.

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      • Laia

        August 6, 2017 at 4:01 pm

        Thank you so much! 🙂

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  23. Alina & Deian

    June 20, 2017 at 5:31 am

    Hello Frank,

    thanks for your response. Regarding the advertising: It is not really in our hand as we are based in the European Union and they make the rules; and those state that every single ad has to be marked as such, be it on your website or social media. Sometimes, you can see hashtags like #ad on twitter or Instagram, for example. Most people ignore this rule, but we bet that there will come a time that will bite them in the butt. Even words like advertorial are not strictly allowed depending on the language you write in. Our website is multilingual and in German, we actually use the German word for advertisement, because the word advertorial isn’t understood by most Germans. So, all in all, we are extremely careful with this topic as consumer laws are very strict over here. We know that rules for people living abroad are very different, but sadly, we have to play by the EU rules — and others living here should too.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      June 20, 2017 at 1:53 pm

      Wow…I guess they’ve stopped fighting over the standard sizes of pillows and have found something equally tedious to regulate. I can understand company websites, but personal blogs?

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  24. Alina & Deian

    June 19, 2017 at 4:52 am

    Awesome article. We’d like to add one thing that annoys us: lack. of transparency. Most of the time, readers have no idea what is an ad and what is not. We made a special button with the help of a short code that indicates that an article contains ads (even if they’re just affiliate links). With a click on the button, readers can read our transparency manifesto. Of course, every affiliate link is also marked with a little star (*).

    Although the rules over here in Europe are quite strict regarding advertising, nobody seems to care, yet.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      June 20, 2017 at 4:46 am

      Interesting point Alina/Deian.
      I think if someone does advertising it shouldn’t be noticeable to the reader. In other words, it should be incorporated in a way that a link or mention doesn’t appear unnatural in the context of the subject matter. Which is why we do so few sponsored posts (as I’m sitting here typing wearing my very comfortable North Face pants which I bought on Amazon 🙂 )
      On the hand, I wouldn’t go as far as you for the simple fact that you are calling out an ad which can be a distraction in itself.
      I think readers don’t have issues so much on affiliate links because it’s a soft sell – they might be booking through booking.com or Airbnb anyway so it’s not costing them anything, it might even be saving them money.
      Where I have issues is hard selling or even dishonest blogging in order to sell something (example: I just did the El Chepe train through Copper Canyon. If you read certain blogs you would be under the impression that you need to buy first class tickets online to do that trip. Not at all the case).
      I think generally people just don’t want to be hit over the head with advertising and they don’t want a bunch of popups or flashing buttons. And they just want to read stuff and get information without feeling you’re selling them something.
      Thank you for taking the time to comment!

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  25. Warber

    June 18, 2017 at 4:38 am

    Thanks a lot for sharing such a wonderful post.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      June 18, 2017 at 5:29 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it 🙂

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  26. Courtney Blacher

    June 11, 2017 at 12:36 am

    I didn’t realize that having a facebook comment plugin was a turn-off. I always looked at it as making it easier. My pet peeve is having to sign into 50 million places just to leave a comment. I guess it depends on your demographic. I have found most of the people who read my blog have a Facebook so for them it’s just easy. Good to hear another perspective.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      June 11, 2017 at 1:37 am

      I just hate 3rd party sites. I’ll use social media to get people to my blog, that’s it. I also generally find people who leave comments on FB put a lot less time and effort doing so.

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  27. Katherine

    June 5, 2017 at 4:40 pm

    Oh boy I’m actually guilty of a few of these.

    #2 – Posing in your bikini. I actually saw a post where there was literally one photo of the place and the rest were just pictures of the author where you can’t even tell where it was taken. It got 4k shares in a span of few days and ranked on page 2 of Google. I have this feeling that nowadays great content isn’t really what sells, but the “dream” you’re presenting.

    #3 – Your blog reads like a diary. Yep, guilty of this too. In fact I’d probably kept at at if it weren’t for the fact that we get a lot of inquiries. So I started writing more informational articles. Now trying to do more thoughtful articles rather than just diary entry types haha.

    With regards to comments and emails, specifically questions, I always try to respond. A lot of our messages though are from readers who obviously didn’t bother reading the post (seems to be a common trait of Filipinos – and yes I am one so I know what I’m talking about) or don’t want to do their own research for the most basic things. For example, asking for the budget we spent when there’s a whole section dedicated to budget and expenses. We also get asked a lot about upcoming dates for “our” tours. I don’t know if this is a message from the universe that we should establish our own travel agency, we are not communicating our message clearly or again some readers don’t just bother reading. This type of messages I ignore. What do you think about this?

    About the Sexiest Male/Female Travelers, hey, I was included in that! 🙂 In my defense though I wanted to have a backlink from a well-established blog as that was the month I started building up our DA and thought there’s going to be an accompanying post along with the pdf. Nonetheless I was still happy with it – I think because I was really fat in college and couldn’t seem to outgrow the image.

    For your question, I wouldn’t call it necessarily a pet peeve, but those bloggers who seem to like everywhere they go to? That doesn’t seem real to me. It’s like every place is a “paradise.” I think it’s misleading and obviously written solely for the benefit of the readers regardless of how they – the bloggers – actually feel about it, unless of course they’re really just that happy to go anywhere.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      June 5, 2017 at 7:40 pm

      Unfortunately you are right about point #2 Katherine.

      I also get emails asking us about “our best price” to spend 2 weeks in Switzerland or something as if we were a travel agency…I guess some people don’t know the concept of a travel blog.

      Ah, so you are one of those Sexiest Female Travellers huh? I don’t know, I wasn’t going to pay for the PDF. As a newbie blogger how did you get on that esteemed list?

      Portraying everything as paradise – yup, as you said in your 1st paragraph it’s all about selling the dream.

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      • Katherine

        June 9, 2017 at 2:37 am

        You get in through nomination. 🙂 I have my own copy of the pdf and I actually like the concept, which is re-defining sexy through travel or adventure (if I remember correctly), and it’s not strictly about sexy travelers at all – there are others with different body types. But yeah there is of course a strong sexual theme haha.

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  28. London Girls

    June 1, 2017 at 9:46 am

    Hey there! Thank you so much for putting in the time to create this truly useful and step by step guide 🙂 I appreciate you and hoping for some new posts man!

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  29. Paul and Carole

    May 30, 2017 at 8:47 pm

    This was such a good read, love your honesty and did make me laugh out loud particularly the reference to monkey pullers! Cutting through the abundance of travel blogs out there is time consuming but when you find the gems it’s is so worth it. Being part of the travel bloggers community has been very rewarding, and reading posts like this is really refreshing. We will strive to be braver and more opinionated in the future!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 30, 2017 at 10:57 pm

      Thanks so much Paul and Carole. I think being opinionated, especially when giving your opinion on a place, is a good thing right? I know when reading a restaurant review I ask myself “well, was it worth going?”. I want to know the same about a place.

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      • Paul and Carole

        June 11, 2017 at 6:56 pm

        Definitely, that is exactly what you want to know!

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  30. Gaz

    May 30, 2017 at 7:15 am

    Frank, this article is right on the bull’s eye. I think I might have agreed with everyone of your comments. Favorite critiques include, excessive yoga poses, bloggers writing about destinations they have not been to, and difficulty in leaving a comment. Spot on and a funny read.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 30, 2017 at 1:58 pm

      Thank you Ric! Appreciate the feedback.

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  31. Archer

    May 29, 2017 at 7:01 am

    The ads and pop ups always annoy me in some blogs. I automatically close that tab -__-

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 29, 2017 at 11:38 am

      Thank you for the feedback 🙂

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  32. Mark

    May 28, 2017 at 9:17 am

    Great post Frank, wish I had written it – it would have been great therapy as I spend an unhealthy amount of time looking at blogs that wind me up and then complaining like hell about them to Kirsty over an evening beer or two. A total waste of time, I know that!

    Interesting that none of the bikini/bragger/sponsored-posts/self righteous wankers/never-been-there/even though I got this free, my opinions are my own (*)/we used to be OK but have now sold out in return for free trips/I’m going to go somewhere really stupid like Pakistan in order to get your attention and make me look cool (idiots!)/I tell you I travel on $10 a day but in fact my bank account is full of money I’ve made from blogging type bloggers have written in their defence on your post. I’m pretty sure some of them would have seen it but the beauty is, they genuinely don’t think they fall into any of those categories!

    (*) this type of blogger especially annoys me!

    I agree with most of your points but not necessarily the one about commenting on other blogs. We get comments from those that are purely looking for comments in return and I’m not going to get drawn into that game (‘awesome read, thanks for sharing, I really wanna go there now and will put it on my bucket-list!!’). I think it is best to only comment on blogs you are genuinely interested in. I also partly write my bits of our blog as a kind of diary as I’m getting old these days and it’s the only way to remember things :-).

    Sorry, bit of rant there – you”ve hit a nerve! Do you want to do a collaborative post and name all the bloggers that wind us up :-). I wish I had the nerve to do it!!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 28, 2017 at 1:05 pm

      Ha! No, that would be mean. I’ve made some allusions but I haven’t named anyone. But one day we’ll meet for beers and we can go over our lists Mark;)

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  33. Katrina

    May 27, 2017 at 8:47 pm

    I know one pet peeve I don’t have… visiting your site! This post was awesome and details many of my own pet peeves (except family travel since I’m smack dab in the middle of little kid-dom 🙂 ). Keep up the good work!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 27, 2017 at 10:10 pm

      Thanks so much Katrina. I’ll still visit your site, you often like to cut people as well and I like your nasty side. Hope having a kid hasn’t made you all nice and stuff… 😉

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  34. Paula

    May 26, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    I commented the other day using my phone, but apparently it didn’t take – because I know YOU will always reply.

    Hahaha, leave it to you to bring up this topic, you’re sooo entertaining lol. My biggest pet peeve… bloggers who don’t reply, it seems so ungrateful. We all lack those times of no wi-fi, but when a person just doesn’t respond at all, it’s just wrong and distasteful.

    As you know, I’ve been silent for a few months while I’ve been getting ready for my journey. I could have wrote about places I haven’t been just for content, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. It’s like on Instagram where people post other people’s photo’s – that totally irks me.

    Wow! I just looked up to the comment above and you mentioned my blog! Thank you Frank for the shot out. I totally appreciate it 🙂 See, everything works out as it’s supposed to, if my other comment took, then I might have missed you mentioning my blog . I love how the Universe works 😉

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 26, 2017 at 8:14 pm

      Agree Paula, I think it’s just rude if someone doesn’t reply. Somebody just made the effort to come to your blog, to read a post, and to spend time writing something – they should at least be given a few moments of your time.

      I don’t use Instagram which makes me a bit of a dinosaur I guess. People post other people’s photos? You mean like pinch them?

      Pleasure giving you the mention, I was just struck that quite a few bloggers in my circle (including you) going through many life changes. I look forward to reading about your travels, you’ve got exciting plans!

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      • Paula

        May 26, 2017 at 8:52 pm

        They usually give credit to the photographer, but even so… I don’t want to see a collection of fantastic photo’s they found online

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        • Frank (bbqboy)

          May 26, 2017 at 9:49 pm

          Yes, got it 😉

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  35. Olivia Deihs

    May 26, 2017 at 6:34 pm

    I am so glad I found this post – I agree with SO many of these! Especially the yoga poses, it seems to be so “in” right now. I am new to blogging and I’m having a lot of fun with it. I think these are some great things to keep in mind as I continue. Thanks for sharing!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 26, 2017 at 8:04 pm

      Hi Olivia! Thank you for taking the time to comment. I newbie blogger huh? I’ll make sure to have a look at your blog 😉

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  36. Gilda Baxter

    May 26, 2017 at 8:14 am

    Frank, refreshingly honest. No one can accuse you of being boring, you certainly have a gift for saying the things we all want to say, but just don’t have the courage. Agree with all your points. I am sure I am probably guilty of some of those :(. I enjoy commenting on the blogs I have made a connection with, I really enjoy the interactions, I will always answer to anyone who has bothered to comment on any of my posts, for me that’s what is all about. I like blogs that feel real, personal and don’t just read like a travel guide but offer an insight into what it feels like to visit that particular destination. I am about to go for early retirement at the end of this year, so my travelling life has not fully started yet, I look out for blogs like yours to show me what life is like when you have the freedom to do what you want 🙂

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 26, 2017 at 12:22 pm

      Thank you Gilda for the nice comments. I thinks its ok to be honest, I’m not naming or singling anybody out. And even if I did the internet is public and I believe that if you’re going to put yourself out there that at times you’ll get people who don’t agree with the way you do things or will call you out on your bullshit. I’ve actually had someone write a whole blog post about me because she took personal insult at my thoughts on Lisbon, her adopted city. Which is actually a compliment isn’t it? I definitely got under her skin 🙂

      Thanks for your feedback on your preferences, yes, I know you like depth to your blog posts. I agree that I want to know people’s true feelings about a place or what led them there if they are thinking of spending significant time there. Yes, “realness” is what I think is often lacking in blogs.

      Good for you about early retirement! There are a few other bloggers who are also changing their lifestyles significantly this year: Patti from Oneroadatatime and Paula from atravelerspostcard. Its exciting and I’m looking forward to reading about your experiences and how it affects your outlook as you travel more.

      Thanks for the comment Gilda.

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  37. LIONEL

    May 26, 2017 at 6:59 am

    On the bright side, I’ve discovered an excellent “vlog” (sorry for the brackets, but it takes a time for me oldie to get used to new tech words) that you would I think appreciate a lot : hobotraveler.com

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 26, 2017 at 11:53 am

      Thanks for the Lionel.
      I ‘m not generally a fan of vlogs because I just don’t like listening through a video. But you’re right this is good and maybe I can play it in the background while doing other stuff.

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  38. Victor

    May 25, 2017 at 5:31 pm

    One reader left a comment to my post, “Wow! I didn’t know that a travel post can be interesting.” I was very pleased, but it forced me to think, “Hmm… So, are the most of travel posts not interesting?!” YES! Unfortunately.

    Frank, this your post is interesting. Thank you.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 7:25 pm

      Thank you so much Victor!!

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  39. Natascha (WESTWARDS)

    May 25, 2017 at 1:43 pm

    Now, that was an interesting post! Personally I do not read sponsored posts anymore and I tend to find most blog posts boring for one reason or the other. And I really hate these “10 things to do in…” or “What to do in 24 hours in …” posts. And I do not even get the idea of writing about destinations you have not been to. After much struggling with our blog we have come to see it as a possibility to keep in touch with people all over the world. Most of them we have met at one point or another, some we know only through the virtual world.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 7:24 pm

      This is a great comment.
      1) YES, totally agree with the lists and the “what to do in so many hours” posts. Too many of them and so boring. Again, they could be taken from Trip Advisor.
      2) speaking of which, you reminded me of “packing list” posts. How damn difficult is it to pack a damn bag? I don’t think I’ve ever clicked on one in my whole life.
      3) Here’s another: “Best Chairs to take with you Camping”, “Best socks for cold winters”, “Best outdoor pants for Hiking”. Sometimes you see a blog full of posts like that. That’s pretty bad.
      There’s just too much crappy content out there.

      Its true that the blog is a great way to meet new people. Over the last month we’ve met up with 3 couples who’ve followed our blog: 2 non-bloggers and 1 blogging couple. It’s nice to connect like that.

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      • Natascha (WESTWARDS)

        May 26, 2017 at 1:36 pm

        Mix it up a little bit and it gets more interesting – “The best chairs for cold winters” – “The best socks for camping” or “The best oudoor pants for 24 hours in Barcelona”. I DO like lists with personal tips you do not find in any guidebook or trip adviser or lists about topis – like “Best Egyptian Museums” or “Best Zen-Gardens” provided that the writer has actually been there and can compare the sights.

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        • Frank (bbqboy)

          May 26, 2017 at 3:48 pm

          Yes, those object posts are basically just advertising products.
          And I agree with you 2nd point, I don’t mind comparison posts. Again, they’re subjective and that makes it a bit more interesting.

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  40. Jane

    May 25, 2017 at 11:20 am

    Well written..not rotten post…

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 7:12 pm

      I thought maybe it was one of those Aussie expressions that sounds bad but is in fact good 🙂

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  41. Jane

    May 25, 2017 at 11:19 am

    Love it, Frank. You are one of a kind and honest I agree with your comments. Pop ups, ads and exit intent boxes give me the irritable. I recently visited a big blog and was stunned to be faced with irrelevant ads, about 6 in the one post and a flashing one in the sidebar. Grrr. Well rotten post!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 7:11 pm

      Like one of those gambling pop-up sites??
      I don’t know who reads some of the bigger blogs, many are so boring. Congratulations to them, they had the foresight to get in early. But I can name many blogs, that get no readers, where the quality of writing is so much more superior to that on the bigger blogs.

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      • Jane

        May 25, 2017 at 9:24 pm

        Hi Frank, I follow a bunch of different blogs regardless of the size, so many have fabulous travel ideas.

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  42. Travlermb

    May 25, 2017 at 10:47 am

    My biggest issue: the instant experts, especially the blogger who fly and write about 1st class think they know everything about the airline industry.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 7:06 pm

      Ah, that’s a new one. Interesting.

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  43. Andrea

    May 25, 2017 at 9:00 am

    Frank, I can’t remember when I last enjoyed reading a blog post as much as this one! Talking about expressing your opinions – I love your honesty. Totally agree on pop-ups and ads. I was told by many people I should include google ads, but I am resolute against it. I want my blog to read like a clean book. I also find eco bloggers a bit snooty – whenever I reached out to them, I never got a reply. I subscribe to many travel blogs and what really annoys me when a travel blogger can’t be bothered to send a super quick reply if I ask them something. I mean, you subscribers are your most loyal readers – wake up to that! I think I replied to more than 3,000 emails from my subscribers in the last 2 years. And some of those replies were quite long and elaborate, almost planning a travel itinerary for many of them. Hope you’re enjoying living in Split 🙂

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 6:57 pm

      Thanks so much for the great compliment Andrea!
      Totally, totally agree with your about subscribers being the most loyal readers. Blogging isn’t just about writing and then going away. I know one popular big blog that I’ve always liked..but they never reply and I’ve noticed now they never get comments. So what’s the point?
      Honestly, I don’t know if google ads and any other ads on the page work. Maybe if you have huge traffic you’ll get the odd person who clicks. But I think for most of us (as readers) it’s 1) unattractive (totally get what you say about clean book), 2) reeks of desperation. Again, these are things we get ‘told’ when we are new bloggers but it’s almost like someone is colluding to pull the wool over our eyes. It’s like the pop-up subscription box that I mentioned to someone else – I’ve gotten a lot more subscribers since I got rid of that. Everyone tells you that you need a pop-up subscription box…
      I think it’s all an elaborate plot against travel bloggers Andrea 🙂

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  44. Anita

    May 25, 2017 at 7:20 am

    Yes, Yes, Yes! Also included with the bikini and yoga posting bimbos are the blogs that talk about partying, drinking and barfing their way around the world, hooking up with any and all, traveling on some minute amount of money daily or carrying all their earthly belongings in a lunchbox like there’s some sort of competition going on. My favorite blogs, like you mentioned, feature bloggers with an about page that give you a sense of who they were and are, and are a story that keeps evolving no matter where in the world they happen to be. Thoughtful, informative and occasionally snarky get my vote every time! P.S. That “Hello Kitty” pic cracks me up!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 6:21 pm

      “Partying, drinking and barfing their way around the world, hooking up with any and all, traveling on some minute amount of money daily or carrying all their earthly belongings in a lunchbox” – you’ve just described many of the teens who come to Croatia in the summer (many American) for the cruises along the coast between Split and Dubrovnik. I’m told it gets pretty bad and I often wonder what the parents think. Imagine the bugs getting passed around. Gee, I wish I had known girls like that when I was a kid…

      Glad you liked my Hello Kitty pic 🙂
      Thanks for the comment Anita

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      • Anita

        May 31, 2017 at 10:51 am

        Just read my comment again and realized how much I sound like my mom! HaHa! I was an enthusiastic partier before I got a little bit smarter but hopefully not quite as in-your-face as some of the bloggers I was refering to! And your “wish I’d known girls like that” comment got a good laugh!

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        • Frank (bbqboy)

          May 31, 2017 at 3:00 pm

          I liked to party as well when I was younger – but that was before social media and before having your own blog even existed.
          Boy, I feel old now…:)

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    • LIONEL

      May 26, 2017 at 7:16 am

      wasn’t there a film of Julia Roberts (the “action” is in Indonesia , Bali ?) where she was doing exactly that “love,eat , pray” I think ?

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      • Frank (bbqboy)

        May 26, 2017 at 12:02 pm

        Yes, it was in Bali. But I don’t remember her doing crazy yoga poses all over the monuments.

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  45. Kemkem

    May 25, 2017 at 6:45 am

    Haha!!! Sorry that you hate my red dress with the sash! 🙂 . WTF is a sash? Isn’t that what the Miss USA pageant wears? I love this post and l’m so glad you got around to writing it. You know what my pet peeves are and l remember you mentioning the bikini wearing bloggers. I almost lost it when you said they asked you to pay to read about the sexiest bloggers. Insane! I have done l think 3 sponsored hotel reviews in 3 years, and truthfully wouldn’t mind doing more, maybe 3 a year….BUT I am totally lazy :-), and often, l plan the trips on the fly. I always love getting those “would love for you to post this on your site that was written especially for you” but no name..and from people who haven’t even bothered to read the blog. I actually googled “bloggers who write about real things” in so many forms as a l stopped following so many blogs. They all went the sponsored route for every post or only do a top 10 of every place (I find that so boring and soulless. I know they are the most popular, but does it have to be every post?). I want stories and yes, opinions and experiences. Didn’t know Spanky did yoga? Cool. I tried it a few times on the wii :-).

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 5:52 pm

      Jeez, I don’t know Kemkem, I’ve never worn a dress. I meant something like this. Now you know why Spanky hates shopping with me.

      I’m actually surprised by how strong the reaction is here to sponsored posts. I much prefer to charge for a link which some advertisers will do, it blends in and usually not noticeable.

      Lissette was very big on yoga and meditation and one day wants to get back into it. We even went to yoga classes together and I always enjoyed it.
      So you did yoga on the wii? I did boxing on the wii. In both cases a pretty piss poor substitute for the real thing though 🙂

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  46. Tony

    May 25, 2017 at 6:45 am

    Right On , Frank !

    I ditto everything you mention – and more …. Think too many blogs are about me, myself and I (after all its very much the “Me” Generation, and the age of Self indulgent Individuality and technologies..) and too little about the place itself. The very nature of a blog is to be interestig , informative etc for others. Otherwise , why a blog ? A personal diary album would do the job just fine…

    The other thing that bugs me is the wishy, washy, non-commital nature of so many comments on so.many blogs, invariably so politically correct and ‘nice’ they make one want to throw up. Travel is one of the greatest character and opinion forming (educative..) processes in the human experience, worht a kot more indeed than a yoga pose infront of temple stairs – or whatever. I also often feel blog commentators themselves only seem capable of looking at the pretty pictures , but are largely incapable of excercising even minimal reading interest or capacity… ! I’ll sign off before I become one of them !

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 5:40 pm

      You are 100% correct in every respect Tony, totally agree. Another thing to add: don’t give people anything too serious to think about. My posts on: 1) the war in Mostar featuring the history and continued hangover effects today 2) The history of Robben Island are just about the most unpopular posts on this blog. Keep it trivial with some pretty photos and everyone will be happy though…

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  47. Tom Bartel

    May 25, 2017 at 5:40 am

    Well Frank, you pretty much nailed it here. Of course, I do look fabulous in a bikini, so I’m going to keep it up despite your objections.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 5:33 pm

      I said chicks in bikinis. No reason why we can’t wear one 😉
      Last summer couldn’t believe when I saw this guy here in Croatia walking down the street wearing the Borat swimsuit. My Croatian friends catcalled him, he looked so embarrassed…

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      • LIONEL

        May 26, 2017 at 7:12 am

        actually that kind of swimmsuit was the norm for men a century ago, so why catcalling him ? I tend to be tolerant in terms of swimsuits because I had some negative reactions when I was wearing my speedos in the US, whereas it’s completely normal in Europe.

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        • Frank (bbqboy)

          May 26, 2017 at 12:00 pm

          Are you sure we are talking about the same things Lionel? I’m talking about this.
          Yes, I know Americans can be prudish about swimwear.

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  48. Jasilyn

    May 25, 2017 at 5:32 am

    MeganStarr told me to check out this post and it’s hilarious and so true. I completely agree with your number 1 and 2 points, but also basically the rest. I for an e-mail from someone asking for me to link their blog and I responded saying I wasn’t interested. Apparently something wasn’t working and they e-mailed me 2 more times each time becoming more pushy. I responded to ALL THREE e-mails. My last e-mail was very rude, but I hope they got it.

    Also, I HATE when people call themselves “travel bloggers” but every other post is a sponsored one, like “How to throw the best Super Bowl Party.”

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 5:22 pm

      Ha! It just sounds like someone posting anything that will pay. Yes, including an ad for a Super Bowl Party in a travel blog sounds like a bit of a stretch…

      Usually I ignore an email like that because I know the person is just making the rounds. They’ll usually go away. But like you, I get peeved if they start getting insistent.

      Thanks Jasilyn for taking the time to comment 🙂

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  49. Megan

    May 25, 2017 at 5:28 am

    YES!!! These are all seriously true. Obviously, you know my pet peeves out there, but some newer ones are definitely the ‘holier than now’ eco-bloggers. I do like when people write about that stuff, because I try to travel sustainably and ethically, but when it comes across as though they are better than others, it rubs me the wrong way. I also am so turned off by people taking sponsored posts that are not related, etc. There is no way you will be able to make Nestea relevant to your travel blog, so just don’t try! Sorry. Have a Tim Horton’s email in my inbox (pretty sure if they ended up reaching out to me that a lot of people got it) and as much as I’d love to write about my love for Timbits (American, not Canadian here haha!) and their everyday coffee, I actually can’t think of how that would relate to a single reader of mine or what I write about. I could go on and on…. But…. I am going to fix my ‘About Page’ now as it lost formatting during my redesign as has been sitting there with an ‘Under Construction’ notice for over a month. Aghhhhh!!! Don’t head to my page and check it out 😛 Great post!! Such an enjoyable read!!!

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 4:51 pm

      Hey, that’s funny Megan because I got an email the other day from a guy called Tim Horton (not the company though). Sure it’s not the same guy? He wanted to do a sponsored post on the blog that (yup, you called it) had nothing to do with a travel.

      My issue with the vegan eco bloggers (aka dirty backpackers) is that most are ultra radical and would rather see a village burned down than have an elephant do a 10 minute dance for tourists. It might not be ideal but there are foundations who do their best with the help of private funds, volunteers plus short tourist shows (just to get by). Unfortunately they don’t get the celebrity endorsements and funding of Elephant Nature Park (which is the one they always cite). Other places have just as noble intentions and are working towards it but need support…the alternative is much worse, most of the elephants there had horrible stories. They should get off their high horse and actually promote places trying to make the world a better place and not slam them down just because they’re not 100% perfect. These foundations know it’s not 100% ideal but they’re doing their best considering local mentalities and useless governments…
      Anyway, enough of that.

      Of course I had to check out your About Page after all that 🙂 . I don’t see anything at all wrong with it.
      Thanks for the comment Megan.

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  50. HUNG THAI

    May 25, 2017 at 5:02 am

    I like how you say things as they are. It helps when you don’t have to pay the bills with the blog – you can stick to your thing and do as you will. The number one thing I dislike about blogs is the clickbait titles – you know the typical “This place’s dish will shock you” or equivalent. I supposed I’ve fallen into the same trap lately, having to put the site on a mostly guest posting spree as real life kicks me in the ass. I guess having posts that are typical lists are better than having no posts… Thoughts on clickbait blog titles?

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 4:29 pm

      I don’t think anyone should be in a situation where they have to make money with the blog. Many more easier ways to make money and I think if people go into it to make money that’s the wrong approach.

      Click bait: Like “why you should NOT go to Croatia”. They had those going on for a while…then you click and it’s just another article and how beautiful it is blah, blah. Or “Scammed in Bangok” and you read about how he was overcharged on a tuk-tuk (hardly what you would call scammed unless you are the cheapest person on earth). You are right, very annoying.

      Busy these days at Boeing? Yes, noticed you haven’t been writing much in the last little while.

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      • Hung Thai

        May 25, 2017 at 8:54 pm

        Heheh I’ve actually seen some of those articles you mentioned – super annoying! Work has been pretty stressful lately. I’ve been trying to close a major project for the last few months and the end is another 5-6 months out.

        I agree that going into blogging for the money might be a tad optimistic and that’s another pet peeve – people telling other people to start blogging, saying how rewarding it is and how you can travel the world for free. All that ends up happening, most of the time, is you get the person paid and you’ll end up quitting in a year or two when you haven’t managed to make anything.

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        • Frank (bbqboy)

          May 25, 2017 at 11:25 pm

          It must be a cool place to work, I always wanted to work in aviation when I was younger.

          There’s another peeve: the selling of the “travel blogger travel the world for nothing dream”. Certain bloggers have made a career of selling that dream.

          My philosophy has always been have fun with the blog, build it up with time, and the money will come (maybe) at a certain point. We don’t chase anything yet we get some sponsored posts and links. Another thing I don’t do is just accept anything. I ask for a lot which most people say no to. But I always say I’d rather have very few ads for a bit more than many crappy ads on the low side.
          But the main thing has always been to enjoy blogging and connect with people. I’ve mentioned before that I blogged for about 7 years on one of those obscure hosted sites before getting my own domain. No traffic, no comments but I’ve always enjoyed it. So those people who quit after a year or two I don’t understand. They got into it for the wrong reasons.

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  51. Corinne

    May 25, 2017 at 4:02 am

    Frank, I chuckled all the way through this post. We all have the same frustrations…well, most of us. I think the thing that burns me up the most, though, is when someone writes about a place they’ve never been. As far as the bathing suits….I wish I could do that…but alas….I have to rely on other talents at this stage in my life. Enjoy! Hope we run into you guys again soonish! Corinne

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 10:41 am

      Thanks Corrine. Yes, I had never noticed that until someone mentioned to me that writing about places you haven’t been is a thing people do. Then I started to notice it everywhere. Unbelievable right? What a cost cutting way to travel.
      I’m holding hope that one day I get to see you in a bikini Corrine 🙂

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  52. Jenny Armitage

    May 25, 2017 at 3:54 am

    Thank you for this post. I do not currently have a travel blog (I do keep a painting blog), but I read a number of travel blogs and may start one soon. Your entry articulates many of the reasons I read your blog. I like your blog partly for your voice and partly because my husband and I think seriously about living the way you do now when retire. Beyond that specifics, photos, and opinions are what keep me reading. I’m unlikely to post many selfies especially not in a bikini. But your list of peeves is useful.

    Unlike you, we travel abroad only about a month and a half every two years. We hope to double that in the coming years as we send our girls off to college. What I’d like to provide is a guide to less visited sights worth seeing and hikes worth taking. Cooking may also be a theme. I enjoy the challenge of using vacation rental kitchens to produce fine food with minimal effort.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 25, 2017 at 10:38 am

      Thanks for the comment Jenny, appreciate the kind words. It sounds like you have a pretty good idea of what you want to blog about which is a great start. I think the key is to just enjoy it and just do anything you feel you want to do. Don’t listen too much to others or feel the pressure to conform, it’s your space 😉

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  53. Stephen Jones

    May 24, 2017 at 11:28 pm

    A well put together post, Frank! I can’t help but agree with you on everything! What really irritates me, the most, are the yoga posts, and guest posters. Some are ok. But so many of them are overdone. There are a few blogs that I stopped following, because of that. As for overly done advertising, yuck.

    As for my blog, I guess mine can seem a little diary-like – but I’m trying not to be, too much! 🙂 But I guess that’s the nature of my current bicycle trip to Melbourne (only a few weeks, and riding for charity). When I start cycling around the world, I’m probably going to be much more relaxed on my posting – and post much longer posts. For the day to day, I’ll let my photos do the talking. 🙂

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 24, 2017 at 11:54 pm

      Hi Stephen – I checked out your blog because I’m very impressed with your bike plans. Many years ago I did a bike tour around the Gaspe peninsula here in Canada and it was a wonderful experience. It’s really inspiring that you’re going to do an around the world tour by bike, including across all of Canada (I have to warn you though that the ride across the prairies is going to be boring as hell).
      And I hate to point this out but I tried leaving you a comment and when I press post comment nothing happens. It’s in lockdown. I’ve saved it in word if you fix it 🙂

      Thanks for the comment, nice to meet you on the blog.

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      • Stephen Jones

        May 25, 2017 at 12:20 am

        Thanks for the kind words! As for your attempted comment, that’s strange. Though, you did leave a comment some time ago (November, 2015). Then I changed hosts, and domain name, and somehow ended up losing my subscribers. Haha. I wonder if un-approving and re-approving will solve it. 🙂

        I’ve driven across MB, and know how flat and boring it can be. 🙂 But I’m looking forward to it.

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  54. Rhonda Krause

    May 24, 2017 at 9:51 pm

    I agree 100% with everything you just said! Another thing I would add is female bloggers/social media influencers who are always posing in nature wearing some high fashion outfit, hair perfectly done etc. It’s so fake- no one in real life goes hiking looking like that!

    I’ve stopped reading quite a few blogs that I used to enjoy because now everything they write about is sponsored. If I wanted to read a marketing piece, I would stick to tourism board websites. Also, don’t get me started on hotel “reviews”…

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 24, 2017 at 11:02 pm

      Yes, agree with the whole posing thing and the fakeness of it. You know they’ve probably made it to the trailhead, snapped their pic, and headed back to the parking lot 🙂
      It’s true that there’s definitely a lot of image for the sake of image going on, I guess just a reflection of society in general. I always like bloggers who keep it real, the good, the bad and the ugly.

      You’re right about sponsored pieces. I also have issues with some of the bigger bloggers writing a post and somehow working in every single affiliated company that they work with. It\s not even about the post anymore but somehow plugging everything they do. We all want to make a bit of money with the blog but it has to be seamless or as close to seamless as possible I think…It’s interesting to see in the comments so far how many people have an aversion to sponsored posts.

      Hotel Reviews – yes, I agree. I mentioned we did a few in Japan and had some incredible experiences that we would never have had otherwise (I’d never pay $700/night for a hotel room in real life). But it is the only place we’ve actually done hotel reviews and was actually a fun experience and we learned a lot from dealing with a couple of hotels there. But for us it’ll never be more than one post in every hundred…

      Thanks for the feedback Rhonda.

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  55. Heather Cole

    May 24, 2017 at 7:55 pm

    Spot on as usual Frank! Could agree more about those bikini poses (sex always sells, which is shame, as many of these bloggers travel to such fantastic places and really don’t need the arses/tits to entice people to read, or maybe they’re just rubbish at writing and shouldn’t be blogging!), and the high and mighty eco vegan yoga warriors. Niches are good, but only if they’re true to what you’re really all about. Have to admit we do accept a few sponsored posts here and there (usually they’re like buses and all come at once), it’s not something I like to do, but it’s easy money and for us to continue blogging (as well as having full time day jobs) it has to pay it’s way somehow. Like your idea of putting the newsletter sign up at the bottom of each post…we’ve never had a pop up as I can’t stand them, but as a consequence have very few subscribers relatively speaking. Might just have to pinch that off you 🙂

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 24, 2017 at 8:16 pm

      “mighty eco vegan yoga warriors” – love that. We call them the “dirty backpackers” because most of them look like they don’t have two pennies to rub together and they always look dirty (I know, not nice). My issue is that they’re radical and oblivious to economic realities. God forbid a baby elephant does a 10 minute dance (per day), that’s exploitation. Never mind where that elephant would be if you didn’t have places like this (with volunteers doing this for free). I don’t want to go into that post here but the reactions I got, both in the comments and in private emails, still make me upset.

      If anyone does Sponsored posts well it’s you Heather. You’ll be honest to the point where I wonder why the heck they would want you doing a sponsored post/free stay on their hotel. Good for you 🙂 Most sponsored posts are syrupy and you know from the first sentence they aren’t worth reading. You keep yours interesting.

      When you first start a blog everyone tells you that pop ups are annoying but very effective. I didn’t find that the case at all and also had a few people mention to me they were annoying. That’s why I changed it. Much better results and nobody complains.

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    • LIONEL

      May 26, 2017 at 7:06 am

      you call that “sex” ? to each his own, but these photos are NOT in any way “sexy”. Vulgar, sure,(I won’t start with the tattoos and piercings craze) but not sexy or even remotely “erotical”.
      We are not in the Victorian times anymore, when the smallest hint of young female flesh made people swoon.

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      • Frank (bbqboy)

        May 26, 2017 at 11:56 am

        I have no issues with a bit of flesh and I like a woman in a bikini or tight dress. I just don’t think it’s appropriate for a blog. What would you start thinking of me if every 2nd photo I was wearing my speedos? 🙂
        Oh, totally agree with you about tattoos or piercings. Turn off for me.

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      • Heather Cole

        May 26, 2017 at 1:40 pm

        Lionel, the bloggers in question think they are sexy, and many of their viewers agree, and are no doubt ‘fans’ because they like a bit of butt, rather than because they’re actually looking for travel tips. Travel sells itself, it just annoys me that so many pretend to be travel bloggers when in reality they’re just slaves to their own vanity. And definitely agree about the tattoos, there really is no need.

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        • Frank (bbqboy)

          May 26, 2017 at 3:48 pm

          “slaves to their own vanity” – well put Heather.

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  56. Patti

    May 24, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    Yes! Yes! Yes! I agree a gazillion % on everything you just listed.

    Without exaggeration, I receive at least 3 emails each week asking to guest post on our site, “with exceptional content written expressly with our readers in mind” and all they “expect” (yes, expect) is the “favor” of a link back to their site. I have a standard reply that usually causes them to disappear, but I have to believe that a lot of bloggers (maybe newbies trying to find an audience) are accepting these “guest posts” or I wouldn’t be receiving so many inquiries.

    Agreed… if you’re going to advertise on your site, I don’t want to see it. That’s the key!

    And, I hate pop-ups when I’m in the middle of reading a post, so freaking annoying.

    And, B3, B3, B3, B3 … shoot me now.

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 24, 2017 at 7:24 pm

      Oh yes, I haven’t even gotten to those guest post requests sent by companies. I just ignore those. But the ones from new bloggers I’ll answer if it’s addressed to me. I get a lot where people don’t even address to to me…at least look up who you’re writing to.

      B3 – darn, I was going to tell you about what I had for lunch and how it went down. I’ll save it for when I meet you Patti 😉

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  57. Tanja (the Red phone box travels)

    May 24, 2017 at 4:44 pm

    I don’t like social media pop ups and I don’t like blogs that only promote luxury hotels. 🙂 agree with you about most of the points you’ve made too, especially about the not travelling somewhere but writing about it posts. that’s like me writing about canoeing or sewing, haven’t got a clue about it 🙂

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    • Frank (bbqboy)

      May 24, 2017 at 6:30 pm

      Social media pop ups: you’re right Tanja. One of the things I’ve done over the last 6 months or so is get rid of that pop up subscription box. Instead I’ve placed a subscription box at the bottom of every post. Subscriptions have more than doubled since then. I think people so sick of pop ups the natural reaction is to just click them shut without even looking at them.
      Luxury Hotels: not necessarily for us either but it’s a niche catering to a certain market. Nice to see places that we’ll most likely never splurge on…I see some of those posts and I realize how cheap we’ve gotten the way we travel (we’ve stayed in luxury places in the past but that feels like a lifetime ago).
      Thanks for the feedback.

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